A final review on my Women’s Colloquium

My semester has now come to an end, and the journey that I have taken in my Women’s Colloquium class has been an enlightening one. There has been numerous discussions made, reading opportunities, and documentaries that has opened up the world of feminism to me. Something I thought I had lost a long time ago. I am well versed in the idea of women’s rights and equalities issues better now than I was at the beginning of this semester but also better than my freshman year here at Kent. I do believe that everyone should take a course like this within their 4 years at a school. It really makes you realize more about the world and how it doesn’t just revolve around yourself. I am glad that this opportunity just sort of fell into my lap, and I believe I definitely made the best with it.

It is astounding to see how far we women have come. We have made such great strides to get where we are now, but if we lived in a perfect world, these strides would have never had to have been made. In a perfect world we would all be equal, but we do not live in said equal world. I suppose that is a good thing though. Because then we would never known of the strength that we have in numbers. We would never dream and try to succeed at being better, at becoming more powerful. And that is definitely worth a lot to me. I think that because of that, women have more strength than men, because they have something to overcome. Just like I believe that the LGBT community is stronger than the straight community. Now I am not saying one is better than the other, that is not my point at all. But when you have a problem that you have to overcome, you become a better version of yourself. If there is no conflict in your life, then you can never grow as a person and really experience life.

I guess where I am really trying to go here, is to say that we still have ground to cover here. We are not completely equal yet, and what we need to do is come together as a community and make that change. We are stronger united, not separated. Girls can be catty, this is one fact we can be sure off, some of us try to bring down others and this is not how we will succeed at becoming equal and stronger. We need to put our differences aside and become one community together, one system working alongside of one another to become the best that we can be; to never stop striving for that want of not being perfect, but just being equal.

We have much further to go, whether that is using our sexual empowerment, a pay raise, or equal job opportunities, we will have to fight for it. Because if there is one thing this class had taught me is that there is no change with only whispers, change is brought by going against the grain and fighting for something. Without a fight, we idly sit by and become stagnant, a product of our own demographic.

 

 

~Jacki K

Reaction to Closing the Pay Gap

After reading the article on closing the pay gap between men and women, I can’t help but support Obama even more. The article (http://www.voanews.com/english/news/usa/US-Women-Cant-Close-the-Pay-Gap-117530324.html) has some great new stats and revelations  about women today. What I take away from the article is that women need to negotiate their pay wages to increase more often like men do. If they become aggressive about  raising their salary then they will see a change. Any other thoughts about the Pay Wage Gap can be seen in my previous blog about it.

And for some more reading go here–>http://www.womensfund.org/blog-and-news/2011/april/inequality-on-equal-pay-day

 

~Jacki K

Reaction to Frilly… Article

After reading Frilly, Pink Culture Could Have Negative Impact on US Girls, I haven’t much to say. I believe that I stated quite a lot on that topic previously with one of our last readings from the first half of the semester. I agree that parents need to help girls realize they can be beautiful by being themselves. And having books, movies, and activities that help them realize their potential as a girl are a great stepping stone for these parents. They do not need to make their little girl into a doll-loving, pretty in pink, rainbow vomiting drone. Little girls need parents to help them realize who they can become. And parents need to realize that they are the ones molding their children into the adults they will become. It was a good read. But the article (http://www.voanews.com/english/news/usa/arts/Frilly-Pink-Culture-Could-Have-Negative-Impact-on-US-Girls-118254754.html) didn’t promote much thinking on my end that I hadn’t already done. Aside from that handy list that would be appropriate for girls to learn from. That was a nice touch.

 

~Jacki K

This Film is Not Yet Rated, A documentary on rating movies.

I just viewed the documentary This Film is Not Yet Rated and even though I considered myself well informed about censorship in the movies, this was an eye opening watch. For a documentary based on how sex is censored in movies today, they presented the information in a very tasteful and entertaining manner. I approve of all of the interviews, private investigator, and film footage that they used. I believe that it really tied the information together to inform the viewer.

Even the most basic knowledge on the stipulations of what is considered ‘G’ and ‘R’ was done in a very funny yet helpful way. And silly me, I had actually not known what NC-17 meant. To me it was just some mythical rating for movies that I never saw, or thought that I saw. NC-17 means No Child under 17, as simple as that seemingly meant, ignorant me only thought it meant something about being 17, like must be 18 or over. Aside from that lapse of common knowledge I found that I had more! After getting more than half way into the movie, I was just like %#@$ this $#%! I am looking up movies that are NC-17. Turns out I’ve seen a lot that were actually reedited for the “R rating.”

What is even more important though is why certain movies are getting this NC-17 rating (which cuts not only their audience down, but also advertisements to a dwindling none) while other, possibly more offensive movies are getting only “R’s.” Why are most of these films that contain sex getting this harsh rating? A lot of the time it has to do because of the women! Surprise, surprise! We are not allowed to be showing our pleasure on screen, and of course no pubic hair is to be seen either! Even if it is in this beautiful scene, where it really portrays how intimate the climax was, apparently it is still wrong. I don’t get it really, you can watch a man with a machete rip someone apart, watch their last dying breath, yet a woman breathing deeply is too much for a 16 year old to watch?

I have written many a thesis and essays in the past about violence and sex in the media and how it affects the public today, ever since my High School years. But even with all my knowledge I am still befuddled on how a rating system like that is in effect. Considering this is America though, I suppose I should not be surprised. We are so behind Europe when it comes to anything that is sex related, and it really saddens me. I wonder what any of the European countries rating systems are like. They see some of the same movies as us, and I know they don’t follow the same rules and regulations as ours. We are already well aware that their sexual education programs are, what seems like light years, ahead of us.

I cannot even imagine the frustration this MPAA system puts on filmmakers, they are trying to make art here with these heartfelt love making scenes, while one of those silly comedies can get away with a teenager fucking a pie. Where is the line really drawn? Personally I find the whole system corrupt and should be refitted. New decades, new audience, new rules. What I found really corrupt was that these parents on the MPAA reviewing committee are supposed to have children between the ages of 5 and 17. When the investigators did some digging, they found that many of the parents had children over the age of 20! I found that ridiculous! Also, why do these committee members have to be parents? There are movies out there whose audiences can be over 18, adults, yet never even hear about a movie that could really interests them, or even change their life, because  advertisements companies won’t endorse a NC-17 film.

Thy system is broken really; I realize this more than ever after watching this documentary. I believe that the rating system needs to change and not be so against women’s sexuality.

~Jacki K

Reaction on Reading Packets

This post is a reaction to the 3 packets of information that was given to my Women’s Colloquium class over numerous topics including rape, the lack of female artists in museums, sexism, women in the courtroom, and women getting into the education system and creating careers for themselves. So inevitably this reaction will cover a lot.

The readings started off talking about colonial women for the most part. How the wife, way back in the day, was more than content to stay home and help the family by making candles and spinning/weaving. This was their way of contributing while the man farmed or had a job in town. Women back then did not feel the need to have a job because they were still contributing to the profit of the family in their own way. And it makes sense, they did what they were good at, and still had a feeling of self worth. As the world has evolved and become much more industrial, the man takes giant strides, while it seems the woman is always two steps behind. While the man left for his job or career the woman was left behind with housework and possibly childcare. No longer having a feeling of self worth because (as most studies show) there is no recognition giving to the wife/mother of doing household duties. No pat on the back, it is expected of them to do these chores.

Now there was the very rare exception of a woman working as a doctor, architect, lawyer, and politician; but these poor women were depicted as “strange mutations” thank to the media back in the 50s and 60s. Just how rare? Here are some stats for 1960: 6% of doctors were women, lawyers 3%, and <1% of engineers. What about professors? Hell no, when women were going to a higher education they were always taught by men who said “you’re taking a mans spot here, but really you’re only filling a quota.” They never had female professors and the crazy thing was that they didn’t even question it! It baffles me that women once were thought about his way, and though about themselves this way!  Women were, and occasionally still viewed as the weaker sex, even though the college attendance is dominated by females now. An example of them being the weaker sex, is when employers would pay women less for the same job that a male was doing. One employer even asked a single business woman  “Do you have a family you have to support?” ‘No.’ “What about a mortgage?” “Not yet but I would like to buy a home soon.” “Well that’s why the man gets paid more!” I was appalled by this nonsense! What about a man who is not yet married and living alone as well! Same circumstances. What is sad to think is that we still have this sexist pay gap!

I hate what society has been forcing onto us since the beginning of time. That women are meant to be raised “pure” and are to be raised under their fathers rule until they are married and basically pawned off to their husbands care. That they are a piece of property, and there for only reproductive purposes.

Moving into the area of television, where it was clear women had only limited options is despicable. What’s even more depressing is that the roles women had back then portrayed them as either children (I Love Lucy) or a modern housewife with all the trimmings. Now don’t get me wrong Lucile Ball was a revolutionist when it came to women in comedy and producing her own shows, but she didn’t really portray her self as a powerful woman in the show. In the 970s we had a boom in household wives watching soap operas (information herehttp://soapcentral.com/soapcentral/news/2005/0509-historyofsoaps_01.php) and although those shows were based around some strong resilient women, they were mostly based around cat fights and love stories. As of late in the 2000s we have women fighting over companies and much more than just a man.

When I read about the flight attendants and about their “height and weight requirements” I was outraged. I could not believe that they were hiring girls on just their looks, and their marital status. They had to be single and plan on marrying within at least 3 or so years (preferably 18 months). Meaning these girls were never around long enough to realize how crappy their lack of benefits were, and they could never advance in position. They were eye candy, meant to be slim and appealing to the business men flying. This also meant that marriage was death to a woman’s job or career. Kaput! You’re done. This also meant that women wouldn’t get hired for other jobs regardless of better schooling than men in things other than just flight attending. Want to know how employers went about this? “Do you plan on getting married anytime soon?” -“Well eventually.” “Alright we’re going with the man, thanks for your time.” And the sexism wasn’t even seen as sexism! It was the norm! How obscure that life must have been.

Something that I read about in one of the excerpts was how a woman waiting to meet a business perspective in a bar was asked to leave. That it was a place for men and that she could not “solicit” there. Pretty much calling her a whore. It blew my mind! I could not image just chilling at a bar in a hotel, possibly waiting for someone, and then be accused of being a prostitute! I would be outraged, and so would that women. Its like comparing the following pictures:

I would be appalled!

Unfortunately I did not get much out of the Guerrilla Girls, aside from it being a great PR tactic for women artists. I liked the idea of it, and the point they were trying to prove. Along with the Riot Grrrl Manifesto, the lack of grammar, which I know is ironic for me considering how poor mine is, I found it was to hard to follow.

I found the 3rd wave portion to be a bit on the “bitchy” side, although I have been known to get pretty steamed up before on touchy issues as well.

I found a lot of the information on rape astounding. It really made me think about it, with all my “human sexuality” classes I’m taking it made me think about what is classified as rape even more. I have also gotten in discussions before with many people about what is considered rape. But honestly I think that I don’t support everything they had to say about rape. I know this is a very touchy subject, so I will try to not be coarse about it. But honestly, I don’t think you can put all the blame on a guy. Like in the instances where the information said “a woman can say no even after some fooling around has begun.” I don’t know how I feel about that. Purely because, let’s face it, everyone fools around after drinking, everyone can feel like it was a mistake the next morning, but only a woman can say after the regret that is was rape? Bull sh*t. You can’t blame a man for reading the situation wrong. If you started fooling around and decided half way through that you didn’t want to continue sex, and hardly voice your opinion on it, that to me isn’t rape. I do believe if you push him away and say “no” sternly then yeah it would be. Although rape is a very serious accusation, I feel as though some women don’t treat it that way. It can sometimes be who mislead who? Who regretted what? And that can turn into something that could ruin one of the participants life.  And what about men getting raped? IT doesn’t happen as often but it does. Men raping men and women raping men. But those men hardly ever step forward. It breaks my heart that things like this happens in this world and no thing can seem to fix this. Their was talk of teaching boys in school, in sexual education programs, that rape is bad, and is a crime. That could help yes, but that’s only one generation out there. What about the generation that has already learned they like to rape others? I read in one study of a university, that if it wasn’t breaking a law/wasn’t a crime 60% of men would rape a woman. That is way to high of a statistic for me to ever feel comfortable around college guys.

Rape has been around since the dawn of time. How do we “beat” it out of society when it’s been engrained in their DNA. What I also found incredibly interesting was the fact that our bed time stories are based around rape. Like Little Red Ridding Hood; that was about rape?!? SAY WHAT? How had I not realized that yet in my adult life? It is so clear to me now. I was blind before. And it is always a man coming into save the damsel in distress. It is a retired story line, it has been used for as long as their has been stories to be told. A women gets into trouble and a man must save her, and sometimes save her from another man. It’s disgusting to think about.  But you find another wolf in an old Grimm story with males as the leads and they can save themselves! The 3 little pigs is the example I am using right now. Over all it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth, when I wish what I was tasting was bacon. It makes me think about any powerful woman in those old stories. They are the evil ones, the antagonists for the helpless protagonists. The old cannibalistic witch in Hansel and Gretel, the spiteful stepmother of Cinderella, the mother of Snow White, and those are just a few. Why must we have the powerful women be the evil monsters?

Although some of the examples given in the reading are very disturbing and those women deserve the rights that every woman deserves. Domestic does not mean safe just because you have your husband there to save you. Wives can be raped by their husbands as well too. I believe society needs to change, that seems improbable.

That is all I care bare to say on this subject.

~Jacki K

Women equality in 30 Rock

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I am currently smack dab in the middle of a 30 Rock kick thanks to Netflix and incorporating Tina Fey in a presentation for school. And I stumbled upon the season 3 episode 20 jem that is “The Natural Order.” It is a great episode! It tackles equality in such a funny manner of racism and sexism that you can’t help but laugh! It is peppered with jokes that are big subjects in my women’s colloquium class that I HAD to write a response to it. The basis that is the natural order of things; is around Tracy (the black star of the show) and Liz (the woman boss of the show) after Liz tries to force Tracy out of his preferential star treatment and he reverses the “equality” spin (after Liz receives a “race card” for being racist towards Tracy) making the crew treat Liz like one of the guys.

Tracy tries to Imagetell Liz how it isn’t right to treat everyone equally, and the episode does this with a plethora of jokes as their arsenal. Liz is to be treated like a guy with the other men of the office by these men farting around Liz, inviting her to strip clubs, and in a wonderfully subtle scene with Jack he mentions how he “pays her a little less” and “has to hold conversations and coddle” Liz unlike when he speaks with the men.

Liz doesn’t let this go though, she forces Tracy to sat at work while everyone else goes to the strip club and work on the show.

I believe that the show does a great job at pointing out how the work world still has sexism, but the end resolution is that they both buckle at the same time (Liz not enjoying herself at the strip club and Tracy whining about too much work) and decide that they have to be treated differently. But in this case I think it is done responsibly, although the show does a great job of setting up all the problems that surround the lack of equality in the work place, when it comes down to it, the work place should have a natural order of things. One joke was that Liz had to change the water color by herself, she made a mess and had no idea how to do it. An instance where a man may have been better suited. And yes, women prefer a conversation and to be listened to while men are straight to the point. I think that these are things in the work place that should be acknowledged but not changed. I believe that there should be some give and take when it comes to equality in the work place.

~Jacki K

When will the ignorance cease?

Today I had the unfortunate duty of dealing with first rate ignorance around gay rights and sexism. The argument proved to be a long and endearing one which in the end I know that I taught at least one person something, which was the original culprit of misguided vocabulary. My personal war against ignorance began around 9 this morning on facebook over a well known picture that I have seen before, and have always supported. By the end of the fight I came to two conclusions. One: All people should be required to take a class in BOTH High School AND College (if both are attended) about equality and human rights. Until this requirement is fulfilled mass amounts of people will continue thinking they are living a blissful life filled with ignorance. Which brings me to point two: Even if you are well informed it doesn’t matter, all you may be trying to do is educate the people who are so remarkably wrong, yet when your point is thus proven they cry like little children who don’t get their way. It astounding that all I was doing was trying to educate a person on something they claim to know knowledge on, and yet I was the bad person. Although all of my information is correct and has been learned in classes that have taught me about equality and human rights, they are the ones who are looked on upon like heroes, while I, the villain. Their comments were liked, while I was scorned as a “massive bitch” and just rude. The following is the picture (which I support) and the conversation that transpired throughout the day.

The caption that started it all was “Shared from a friend 🙂 tolerance & acceptance”

ME- Tolerance: To agree with in allowing the right of something one does not approve of. Thus, if you are FOR gay rights, tolerance would had been the wrong choice of word for you to use. Acceptance and tolerance are not synonyms, and writing the word Tolerance just screams “I do not believe what you are doing is right, but I’m going to tolerate it and look the other way although your love truly disgusts me.”

ORIGINAL POSTER– lol i get what you are saying but my message is to others… I am fully in acceptance.

ME-Then just say “acceptance,” or”Acceptance from me, and tolerance from the people who find acceptance against their beliefs.”
That way you actually sound like you know what you’re talking about

*Richard* Well the one girl is a blonde 😛

ORIGINAL POSTER-I do know what I’m talking about lol!

*Richard* correct blondes are evil….I should know…I date one 🙂 *Tag girlfriend*

ME we are not evil, we just cant tolerate ignorance.

*Richard* Ignorance of what

ME of anything about gay rights.

*Richard* hmpf…rights…they are people. They wanna be joined in marriage go ahead. They want kids whatever, it’s fine with me. Im pretty sure at the beginning of the last century women, and minorities had political and social handicaps. It is just something that will fade as generations are born and dies as with the previously mentioned groups.

ORIGINAL POSTER So you are calling me ignorant because you assumed I didn’t know what the difference between tolerance and acceptance is? Anyone who knows me knows that I am very accepting to all differences in everyone! I would hardly call me ignorant. I don’t use words that I don’t understand. You can troll someone else’s post now.

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*Richard* My concern is people worry about petty issues such as this instead of just letting them live their lives, instead of worrying about the truly significant concerns in this world. Like…the rapidly declining education system, the national debt, the unemployment rate, the fact that we have cut more than 50% of our military funding, and all of our funding towards NASA (which btw has done more for this country than almost any other government agency). So, yeah, I am just more worried that most students in southern states (namely the Appalachia regions) have difficulty in college, and we have an ever increasing amount of foreign TA’s in our math and science based fields…it doesn’t bode well for america. Just saying…sorry to explode your wall tori.

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ME First- *Richard*, if you understood anything at all, you would understand that I am FOR gay rights, more so then most people. Second- women are still suffering a pay wage gap, we are getting paid 72-76 cents to the mans dollar. Third- if people would have never fought for those rights then it would have never “fade as generations are born and dies as with the previously mentioned groups.” Fourth- If you would had known the difference between the words and seen that they cannot be used interchangeably or as synonyms then you wouldn’t have used it improperly, because using them in your post contradicts yourself. And I wouldn’t have to troll you if you weren’t so incredibly wrong.

*Richard* Well first JACKI….I have degrees in Social and Environmental Geography…which are composites of Social Studies fields…to include: Sociology, Psychology, History, Poli-Sci, Environmental Studies, Conservation, so yeah…I think I know what I am talking about….not to mention I am also studying Mechanical Engineering (unrelated but…). Additionally, I will not speak of the wage gap…can not say much for that, however, most women are in fact eligible for maternal leave…most men in a business position are not…on a sociological stance I find it interesting that most women expect a man to pay for dinner and be chivalrous to them, yet the expect the same treatment in the business world (not complaining about this….more of just an observation of social norms). I would also say this country has come a very long way since it was established in 1776, and far further than most countries world wide (minus several european nations). You complain about 75 cents on a dollar, that will likely resolve itself in time. In the middle east a women could be stoned to death for wearing clothes that are “too reveling”. I’m not saying anything toward your stance on gay rights, but, to say that this is the nations most pressing issue or I know nothing of the nations social status (or global status) would be a wholly short sighted statement.

ME Well FIRST *Richard*. You obviously see that you have lost this battle considering you are using the classic “I’m losing I must distract her by bringing other topics to the table that have nothing to do with the current argument because this will some how validate my original point and because I know more information on these topics then the topic that is really at hand” trick. So although I would like to ignore the rest of your oblivious indirect argument, I cannot.
SECOND *Richard*, there is no need to bring in what the hell you’re going to school for, because if I sat here and listed my course list in the matter that a snobby wasp like you did, you too would see that I have credentials in the area’s of not only women’s rights but rights for all people, especially the LGBT community (which let us remember that is our original conflict here). So I think that I would actually know more about women’s rights then you would. Which if you were to look at my blog, you would see that I tackle women’s rights quite often and am very educated in the topic, although my grammar is not perfect in my blog.
THIRD *Richard*, and most likely my last question for you is ARE YOU A WOMAN? To my knowledge you have male genital therefore a male social standing in today’s world. I am not saying that women have it the worst in our country, by far that is not my statement at all. Merely that we still have many obstacles to conquer and the world has not yet come to terms with how women should be treated. And since you are knocking down my pure fact that there is a pay wage gap, how would you feel if you were a woman doing the same job as a man and getting paid nearly a quarter less? I’m sure you would be upset if you had the same education and do the same amount of work as the opposite sex yet did not get paid the same.
LASTLY *Richard*, Do not put words in the mouth of others, like claiming I said “this is the nations most pressing issue” because I did not. But personally I do think that basic human rights and equality shouldn’t be and issue, because they are RIGHTS, not “issues” one should not need to vote on or make laws against or around them. Every person born of this earth should have equal RIGHTS and they should not be an issue to be sought upon but they are. So saying that it IS NOT a pressing issue to be granted the same right as another person of a different sexual orientation or sex is ignorant statement on your part.

*Richards’s GF*Hey Jacki. We all respect that you have your own opinions, but you don’t have to be a massive bitch about it okay? Seriously. No one here is trying to fight you, I don’t know why you jumped on Tori’s shit in the first place acting like a stuck up know it all. Go be happy with your opinions and leave people alone. You’re just rude.

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ME I’m rude because I’m right, right? Also Tori and I have already sorted things out, and all your comment says to me is “HEYYYY stop picking on my boyfriendddddd” and that you yourself are dating someone who doesn’t know shit about your own sexes right’s.

  • *Richard*First…my point was gay rights will improve as time progresses…as with any issue society is slow to adapt that will never change. Second as for womens rights: In the last 100 years womens rights have vastly improved…and I agree 100 percent that if a women has the same job/responsibilities she should be paid the same, but do not say a 100 pound girl can carry a 200 pound person out of a burning building then complain they didn’t get hired as a fire fighter…or say they have equal right. I do not believe jacki that you are required to sign up for selective services (ie if an emergency draft is initiated which is still in the constitution I can be drafted)…I am. If I do not I can even get student loans. So before you start spouting ur opinions to everyone try doing it in a respectful manner. I was talking and discussing not rallying for a cause. Thank you. Be proud of what and who you are…america will accept you it just has to adapt. Name calling and being rude only doesn’t make society like the issue anymore. At no point have a disagreed with you…you jumped down my throat for simply making a comment.

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  • MEBecause I was the first to jump. I was the one putting words in my mouth right? I disagree.

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  • ME–  Also you still seem to neglect one of my first points, that nothing changes unless we try to change it. We can just sit back and wait for gays to get rights, we have to fight for them and with them. Otherwise nothing is accomplished, and that is what I was trying to say from the beginning.
  • ME Actually I wasn’t TRYING. I did say that. you just never seemed to have listened to that.

Regardless of his last post, the man still does not seem to understand any of my points. One of the first being “Nothing will get better unless we fight for it, which was, and will hopefully be my last comment.

Again, the world would be a better place if we were all forced to take an equality and human rights class in our lives.

OH and then this happened.

  • *Richard* Listened to what? I’ve been agreeing with you and simply using womens rights as a comparison…I only saw you being argumentative and insulting

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  • *Richard*And actually actively petitioning does less than just accepting it. I’m am more accepting of gays and minorities than any previous generartion in my family…I have never once stood on a street corner with a sign screaming about this isn’t fair. Hardlining is good for changing policies…but it doesn’t make anyone more or less accepting of a change…only time changes that.

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  • METhird- if people would have never fought for those rights then it would have never “fade as generations are born and dies as with the previously mentioned groups.”AND the only reason i became argumentative and insulting is, regardless if you meant to or not, that is what you started with the comment that began with “They want kids whatever, it’s fine with me. Im pretty sure at the beginning of the last century women, and minorities had political and social handicaps. It is just something that will fade as generations are born and dies as with the previously mentioned groups.” and especially with “My concern is people worry about petty issues such as this instead of just letting them live their lives, instead of worrying about the truly signif” You were diverting the conversation to something unrelated and flaunting whatever classes you have taken to help “prove your point”

  • ME And in order to “change” your main point of “time=acceptance” there first NEEDS to be a change.

The war against women’s bodies.

As the weeks have increasingly gone by, with different outcomes coming and going to what seems every other day, we women, have been butting heads continuously for our rights for birth control and choice against a world that is driven by conservative men and the church. After reading this –> http://www.alternet.org/story/154197/4_states_where_right-wingers_are_promoting_shocking_measures_to_keep_women_barefoot_and_pregnant?page=entire

and this http://mediamatters.org/blog/201202080001 along with this http://www.thenation.com/article/165978/obama-stands-bishops-finally I can not but find myself enraged. I am so frustrated with people acting as though they are allowed to tell me what I can and cannot do with me body. I mean hello! I’m not telling you what to do with yours! How about some dignified self respect for yourself and leave other people to make their own choices after knowing that all the consequences can be.

That first link up there talks about 4 different states, Iowa, Kansas, Texas, and Oklahoma all fighting the useless fight of ironically enough abolition abortion. Try saying that 10 times fast. They are trying to pass things like the “Personhood act” where after the egg has been joined by a sperm and thus becomes an embryo, they have the same rights as any person. Which leads me to think this: If a teenager has the same rights as any person, why are they being persecuted differently if they send out “sexts” to another person. Did you know that if a person under the age 18 send out a dirty picture or receives one of another under the age of 18 it is qualified as owning or distributing child pornography? For example if a 16 year old is in a relationship with another 16 year old, and with all those hormones that they have, begin to dirty text one another, and send nude/seminude photos of themselves to the other, they could both be charged and have some jail time? Lets say they both consent and the only way someone finds out about these photos is a parent goes snooping on their phone and find them. They decide to sue the other party. How in the world do these kids not get their own freedom of speech, when embryo’s who are not even capable of having their own coherent thoughts about ANYTHING, gets more rights then an already developed person in the world? What I am trying to say is that makes no sense!

Women should get the right to make their own decisions, and doctors should not be refraining medical advice to them either. One of those states up there were going to try to pass a law saying that a doctor can refrain from telling the patient that if already pregnant there may be some complications. Complications that could even lead to death. How is that fair to a life that is already in existence and has made relationships with family and friends? THAT BLOWS MY MIND.

And then there’s the church. Dear church, stay the fuck out of my business. That’s what I have to say about that. Why does it matter if my company will cover birth control, so I’m not squirting out babies ever other damn 9 months? So wait, wait, you can sit there and tell me that the insurance company can pay for VIAGRA, a drug that helps old men with erectile dysfunction, whom under the correct circumstances, by the act of god, should no longer be having sex; but when a young, vital women wants and can have sex, but is not ready to bring a child into the world yet, and is making a conscious effort to make sure that doesn’t happen, that, well insurance companies can’t cover that huh? Oh is it maybe because those old priests of yours can sit there and have an erection whenever they see a young, pure boy and can ruin the rest of their lives, is that why Viagra can be covered? Oh I see, it’s because you are a bunch of raging hypocrites. I get it now.

Personally I think we should keep fighting the good fight for our rights to our bodies. If I am not ready to bring a child into this contradictory world then you have to give me at least one, if you are so damn against me ripping a “person” out of my uterus, then you better as HELL, let my insurance company pay for the UNGODLY expensive birth control so I don’t have to do that. Any idea how much my name brand costs church/conservatives? It costs me 30 bucks a month and that’s just co-pay, if the insurance didn’t cover it, it would be around 80 bucks a pop.

You, the reader, may wonder why I am so adamant about birth control. Well I will tell you why, I have been taking birth control since the age of 12. “Wow” you must say; “whoreing around that early eh?” Actually no. I was 11 when I began my period and was not menstruating at all, let alone correctly. I would bleed 3 weeks straight to never actually have the egg follow through. It was a nightmarish year for me, and I thought something was wrong with me. Turns out since I was so athletic, yes even as an eleven year old, I had not an ounce of fat on me, and was not going through the normal stages of puberty because I was so lean. I then went to a gynecologist and so began my long, difficult, confusing war with birth control. Figuring out the right dose, when to take it in the day, and of course the battle between generic and name brand. So to you out there thinking, OH IT’S JUST SO PEOPLE CAN HAVE A CRAZY ASS AMOUNT OF UNPRODUCTIVE NONBABYMAKING SEX. You are quite simply, wrong. This was a medication that put me on the right track of menstruation, and it should be covered by insurance companies should it not? It was something that made me get better. So think about that. That’s all I’m saying.

 

~Jacki K

Thank a feminist.

After reading http://www.nownys.org/thankfeminist.html a short article on what feminist have done for women throughout time and why we have what rights we do have now. As I read it I took time to see what cones directly effect me:

  • you can vote, thank a feminist –> been a register voter since 2008
  • you get paid as much as men doing the same job, thank a feminist. –>much appreciation
  • you went to college instead of being expected to quit after high school so your brothers could go because “You’ll just get married anyway,” thank a feminist. –>Finishing school before my older brother did
  • you can apply for any job, not just “women’s work,” thank a feminist –>i would hate being a nanny or maid
  • you can get or give birth control information without going to jail, thank a feminist. –>I can sometimes be a concierge of birth control
  • you play an organized sport, thank a feminist. –>I would had been so bored in high school and probably experimented with drugs if it weren’t for sports after school
  • you can wear slacks without being excommunicated from your church or run out of town, thank a feminist. –> not that I go to church, but I would die if I had to wear a dress or skirt all the time.
  • your boss isn’t allowed to pressure you to sleep with him, thank a feminist. –> this would prove to be a problem
  • you have the right to your own salary even if you are married or have a male relative, thank a feminist. –>thank god considering I have a male sibling
  • you get a voice in the raising and care of your children instead of them being completely controlled by the husband/father, thank a feminist. –> if my father would had been the only one raising me I would have turned out alot differently.
  • you are granted a degree after attending college instead of a certificate of completion, thank a feminist. –>I would had probably spat that dean in the face.
  • you have the right to read the books you want, thank a feminist. –> this makes my world.
  • you have the right to keep your medical records confidential from the men in your family, thank a feminist. –> if my father had known that i was on birth control at such a young age, he would had gone crazy
  • you can look forward to a lifespan of 80 years instead of dying in your 20s from unlimited childbirth, thank a feminist. –> I would be dying in less then 9 years, and only accomplished a college degree.
  • you can choose to be a mother or not a mother in your own time not at the dictates of a husband or rapist, thank a feminist. –>thank god for this.
  • you can see yourself as a full, adult human being instead of a minor who needs to be controlled by a man, thank a feminist.–>I wouldn’t had made it very long in this world.

To say the least these are the ones that have influenced me directly then there are maybe another 5 on top of that. Regardless of the manner these women of the past, although they may have been forgotten, their actions have not.

Just because some people think that feminists were radical and unreasonable for their time, doesn’t mean that the time hadn’t called for radical people and action.

 

~Jacki K

 

 

Even the second First Lady had a tough time talking to her husband.

Our second President of the United States was John Addams, his wife was Abigail Adams a daughter of a minister, and of small education, only writing, and arithmetic, but that was more then most women in this age of the “Revolution.” The letters exchanged between the future president and his wife was during the time when John Adams, Benjamin Franklin, and Thomas Jefferson were drafting up the Declaration of Independence in 1776, she was writing to him about including the women in the declaration. That not only just the men should hold all the power, that women need to have independence just as well and be a part of the country’s power.

John’s retort to her letters of equality and respect? He laughed. He just plainly said that there were more important things on the declarations plate. It would be foolish to tack on something irrelevant, thank gods this has changed since then. I don’t believe that I myself, if put into Abigail’s shoes, would be able to stay with a man who would scoff at my dreams and ideas. It blows my mind that woman’s rights were looked down upon that much. I can’t help but say how much better it is today, yet at the same time have men still scoff at women rights.

Abigail Adams was a woman before her time, already knowing that women would suffer for decades to come after. She tried fighting for us long before anything was even considered being done about it.

 

~Jacki K